Thursday, December 14, 2017

Through the Dark


Through the Dark by Helen Jane Long is on.  I had quite a messy but wonderful conversation last night.  But it brought up something my friend, Aaron, who has passed away, constantly said.  I looked it up right now to see if he got it as a quote since it seems like such a quote to be said already. Perhaps not.  The quote goes, "Communication is an everyday miracle".  I suppose, depending on the person, my communication skills vary.  Talking with SADV, "L", Dear One, or CC is like butta.  It's so natural.  Talking to Jeremy is the easy part.  But talking with him, sometimes.  That's another thing.  We have such a different communication style.  It's like we developed a way to meet in the middle with our styles.  It's not always difficult to talk to Jeremy.  That was part of our pull to each other.  We had such a great banter, flirty, playful way with each other.  It makes me smile because that hasn't changed with us.  We're husband and wife, now.  But we still have a great banter, flirty, playful way with each other.  It's the difficult stuff that sometimes stumps us.  Each couple has to find their language and what I call "their dance".  We were no different.  Our dance has also evolved.  One of the things I am learning about marriage and relationships in general, is the partners need to evolve together, in order to maintain the relationship.  Well, in my experience, these are a couple of the things I would say are in the mix, so to speak. 

1) What do you have in common? What are you interests, together? What are they. individually?
You want to have some bonds, something that glues you two together.  However, you also want to allow each other space in the relationship.  Trying to have each waking moment together can feel like suffocating.  That is not healthy for the relationship.  It also doesn't negate that you have strong bond.

2) A friendship helps.  I've seen couples whom are not friends have a great relationship.  But I will say this.  In my experience, having a friendship with your spouse is such a great feeling.  I would say the words, best friend towards my husband.  But was I really actively being one? Or he for that matter.  We worked on our friendship when we worked on our relationship.  We communicated grievances, hurts, happiness things, wants and needs...you name it.  We communicated the deep stuff where I got to experience deep emotional conversations and Jeremy didn't feel it was "too much feels".  I changed my communication skill

3) Patience.  If you want to make it the long haul with your partner...have patience with them.  Have patience with each other to improve in communication skills


4) Make sure you're in to win it.
Twice, Jeremy and I have been at the edge on what I call the "11th" hour.  We were broken up, once.
We were on the phone.  If we hung up, we are confirming that we were done for.  Yet, neither of us could do it.  We started laughing.  It was then that I figured... We will figure it out, somehow. 
The second time it happened, was last year.  I can't tell you that my perception of a situation was reality or not.  But it was enough for me to distrust.  Keep in mind.  All last year I was dealing with Javier healing stuff.  I was opening up years of triggers.  One friend had, in the best way possible, "poked the bear" and I had to reconcile with the idea I really wasn't okay.  I had this tough exterior up.  But I hadn't dealt with my rape.  Whether I wanted to admit it or not, it affected my communication style.  It affected how I reacted to life.  It affected how I reacted to trusting men.  That includes Jeremy.  We had one night.  It seemed like it was the end.  I was certain we were looking at divorce.  But there again...we stopped.  We needed to know if this is what we both wanted.  And the answer was a resounding no.  So we figured it out.  That's what I mean, in it to win it. 


5) Convey to your partner that they are the priority.  I think both of us failed on that for a little while.
I was still learning and still constantly learn how to communicate healthy boundaries with life, itself.  But I noticed when both of us conveyed and actively showed  we were a priority, it mattered to that other person.  Whether it's work, a video game, another friend...convey to that person, even on a most random way, that they are a priority.  It makes a difference. 


6) Find what works for you.  I've given this insight.  But this could be nothing that works for you.  It doesn't mean this insight is right.  It doesn't mean it's wrong either.  This worked for me.  Find what works for you. 

Funny thing...Number 6 also can also be used for friendship.  It's been invaluable to me to remember that.  My different friendships work for me the way they do. 

Strive to always improve communication skills.  That is my goal in life.  I want to be a positive impact on people.  I want to create healthy relationships with Jeremy and friends and family I care about.  I want to have healthy boundaries in life.  I want to always improve how I am communicating to the world. 

Tuesday, December 12, 2017

Movies and Books


I want to see:

Star Wars
Lady bird
Greatest Showman
Call me by your name
Ferdinand
Shape of Water
Infinity War
Jumanji

I want to read:

Call me by your name
Strange the Dreamer (I'm still on the fence about the audiobook.)
Origin
The Escape Artist
I suppose the Lost Order because I'm in the middle of reading it.
Duff
PaperTowns
Paranoia

Pictures!

"Alex's" cake. "Ethan" made it.  

My cover photo, currently

Yup.  I started the Mimi pictures again.  Here are a few of them
Am I on the naughty or nice list, Mimi?

I'm stuffed.  Get it?

I got my hair did.  I always love getting haircuts.  After having an awesome lunch with  "Ethan".  Kid may be in college but he's always going to be my baby.  

It's about time you got wine. Are you whining about my lack of wine? Yes. Yes, I am.  

Just thoughts


I may be playing a little more Trans Siberian more often on these blogs entries.  The Dreams of Fireflies (On a Christmas Night) is on.  If I can't go to Trans-Siberian Orchestra, bring Trans-Siberian Orchestra to me, via Pandora.  It's my day off today.  I had a few errands to run.  I'm finally sitting down to rest a bit before starting up so more chores before dinner.  Plus, I wanted to make some cheese pancakes for us.  I figured with "Ethan" home more, just studying for finals, he's gotta have something to eat.  Not to mention, I got more yummy stuff for the boys' stocking stuffers.  "Alexandria" went through her stuff this weekend.  We had a wonderful weekend celebrating her belated birthday.  I'm ready for Christmas, kinda.  I managed to get Christmas presents in one sitting.  I went in for one of my bffs's gift card.  I came out with Christmas gifts.  "Sarah" gave me my gift early.  "Sarah", is Jeremy's ex.  We are legit friends.  Are you surprised? We have definitely had a colorful past and friendship.  We had a fall out years ago when she was going through stuff with Jeremy.  And when he and I were dating, we struggled finding solid ground with our friendship.  But one day, we sorted it out.  We both love the kids.  We were going to make it work.  And we have.  I don't do Christmas gifts.  She is one of the few people I accept a Christmas gift from.  I have a whole thing about Christmas.  I believe in family.  I don't believe in the commercialization of Christmas.  Or how certain people have expectations on present giving.  To tell you the truth, it gives me anxiety.  Jeremy and I don't give each other gifts.  I love it that way.  We do birthdays for each other.  That's it.  Cards.  Now, cards are awesome.  Especially because you have to search for that right one.  Jeremy is a master card giver.  I struggled with words of affirmation for awhile.  Or the lack of Jeremy of giving me words of affirmation.  What I failed to see is that he shows it in other ways, constantly.    I just had to pay attention.  Cards is one of them.  His two love languages are touch and service.  While he never quite took the test, we figured that the two important ways he shows his affection is touch and service.  Mine are touch and words of affirmation.  But tell you the truth, once I went through therapy, I didn't need any validation from anyone, including Jeremy.  Words of affirmation became less of a need for me.  When he does something for me, it warms my heart.  He is a man of action.  I just had to learn to see through this new perspective.  And when I need his words of affirmation, I just look at my phone, which has a screen shot of a card he gave me and 10 things he likes about me.  Where was this blog entry going? It has a mind of its own. lol  Ughs.  I finally put it on the Christmas Radio. lol I think I am ready to officially accept Christmas music.  Actually, I've heard it all over the place but I hadn't put Christmas music on since we put up the tree.  It's the Most Wonderful Time of the Year by Andy Williams is on.  Just thoughts.  I went zigzag on this blog entry.  But really, can you expect anything else from me? I hope you have a beautiful day, my quiet spaces.  I appreciate you.  I appreciate you reading me.  I always do.  It warms my heart that you do.  Especially you, France.  Anyhoo... Back to the beautiful humdrum of my day off.  Stay beautiful, quiet spaces.  Stay beautiful. 

Saturday, December 9, 2017

What the Fruit Loops Round 2

This was the next day.  My view from work

I had to take a picture of my shoes...in snow

I just had to pause

My view from work

Magestic

My view from work.  

My view from work

Stunning


I am not sure when I will see this again


An excuse to wear my unicorn hat. Yesh!!! This was today.  We were heading up to get Alexandria.  

What the Fruit Loops in pictures

Snow!!!!

Is that really snow???!

What the Fruit LOOPS?!!!

craziness

Now, I'm ready to face the outdoors

This was my favorite snow picture, I made it my cover photo

My condo complex, covered in snow

 Brrrrr. I need to keep warm

We took a picture the next day.  It had already started melting.  

What the Fruit Loops?


At least that is what I was saying when I started seeing my Facebook feed explode with pictures of snow.  Then, I decided to look outside for myself.  There it was.  This white thing we call snow.  Texas.  Snow.  That just doesn't quite register.  Let alone, San Antonio.  The first time I saw snow, I was about 8 years ago.  I had this bluish plaid coat on.  We had a dog named Brutus at the time.  He and I just played happily in this snow.  It was a divine day.  I remember in 2010 we had snow again.  However, this time it was a nightmare.  I worked on a hill.  I parked my car at the bottom of it and walked up hill.  Never again.  Empty Shore by Deuter is on.  I took pictures.  I took video.  I was a little kid again.  What the Fruit Loops, indeed!

Thursday, December 7, 2017

Inwardly and Outwardly


It's important to state where my peace of mind is in, inwardly and outwardly.  Memory of Monet is on by Dean Evenson and Soundings Ensemble.  Inwardly, I'm probably at the most peacefulness I have felt in a long time.  This healing journey that I have been on consisted of puzzle pieces that required healing of my soul or heart.  In many cases, both.  By doing that, I think it changed my perspective on life, itself.  By doing that, it changed my mind on how I view myself, as well.  These puzzle pieces were part of puzzle to help me either learn a lesson or come to a different perspective.  Sometimes, these puzzle pieces helped me to complete certain happiness energy bars that I saw as being complete.  These puzzle pieces were simple in their form but complicated on how they helped me.  Sometimes they had more than one answer.  Sometimes they gave more than one lesson.  I bring all this up about Inwardly because Outwardly, I sigh a lot these days.  Yesterday, a very important thing happened.  Instead of a person being named Person of the year, it was a movement.  Yes, we saw familiar faces.  But they were about a movement, not a person.  The one time I was hoping DT would not insert himself, he did.  Given his past, it seemed uncouth that he would insert how he refused the title because HE was given a probably about being Person of the year, not a guarantee.  The interesting thing is before this person was thrown into our political spectrum, we did have people whom spoke of sexism and racism as though it was okay to.  It's never okay to.  Those are human beings you speak of.  When you speak so less of a person, it reflects more on the type of character you are.  When you mock a person, it speaks less of you as a person.  I have always been proud to be American, through the good and bad.  It was like loving that black sheep of the family member.  You still loved them.  These days, it pains me to be American.  I still wouldn't want to live anywhere else.  I have lived 2 other places and in the end, home always felt where I was in America.  But my heart is broken seeing such division these days.  My heart is broken to see so much disrespect.  My heart is broken for what I see as acceptable in the political spectrum.  TIME magazine said they considered him because he has changed the presidency.  Yes, but he misses the point...and so does anyone whom follows him.  He is changing the presidency, but not for the better.  He is making a mockery of the presidency.I find it most interesting that he said what he said, a person who has been accused as sexual assaulting.  And the movement was considered Person of the year.   Nixon did some pretty low things in his terms.  Yet, even he had a decorum he stuck by. Some might say it's great that he's upfront.  In that sense, they are correct.  Any president before him showed a certain protocol or decorum, a certain respect towards the office they were temporarily filling.  I don't usually like going political.  People don't know how to argue without disrespecting each other.  Me included.  These days, I keep my mouth shut when someone supports him.  Otherwise, I will go off.  I'm Libertarian.  I might seem crazy to post this.  Some of my readers are not even American and part of me feels like I'm exposing a very personal part of us.  Both you read the news.  You watch the news.  It's not like you're not forming your own opinion of us.  Please don't form an opinion of us based on the news right now.  Or of the vocal few.  Outwardly, I'm in pain.  Inwardly, I'm at peace.  What a duality. 

Wednesday, December 6, 2017

Sheryl Crow


NOBODY HAS A BETTER VISION OF WHO ARE THAN YOURSELF
-Sheryl Crow

She's right.  People have all kinds of opinions on how people are supposed to be, love, act, look like..and so on.  But nobody really knows how to be you better than you.  It's something to remember when we are allowing ourselves to be told what we should be like.  Don't get me wrong.  I have been in the situation where I was allowing others to validate Jess.  I don't say this out of critique.  I say this out of experience.  I say this out of the hope you don't take as long as I do to know those words and be those words.  Resonance by Yuri Sazonoff is on. 

Saturday, December 2, 2017

Margaret Sanger


LIFE HAS TAUGHT ME ONE SUPREME LESSON. THIS IS THAT WE MUST-
IF WE ARE REALLY TO LIVE...WE MUST PUT OUR CONVICTIONS INTO ACTION

-Margaret Sanger

My one conviction that I know to be true.  Be authentic.  Live authentically. 
That is to learn what makes you happy.  You have to learn what makes you live that authentic life.  You have to learn how to live that authentic life.  Even if it is hard.  Because in the end, you won't be happy.  You will, in some ways be lying to yourself.  You will in some ways, be lying to the world of your authentic self.  You are not wrong for not living this authentic life.  We all have reasons we aren't living that authentic life.  Remember, though.  Living an authentic life doesn't mean hurting someone physically or insulting someone.  It just means you have expressed to the world that this is who you are.  And whom you are matters.  Whom you are is important.  Why? Because there is only one you.  And you have something to contribute to this world. 

I have a thing with dates


Jeremy once  said I tend to celebrate, per se, even the hard and sad things in life.  I didn't quite understand the line of thought.  CC helped me understand what he meant is I acknowledge the impact of hard and sad things in my life.  Those dates are a reminder for me.  So, in my own way, I do celebrate them.  Carefree by Dan Gibson is on.  Now, why is that important today? Because I have a collection of dates that mean something, on the hard or sad side.  Something negative, sad, or traumatic is in this collection.  August 1-the rape May 25-a friend committed suicide Nov 3-Brody passed away.  May 19-My grandma passed away.  Dec 2- A dear friend and I parted ways.  You get the idea.  I acknowledge that these days had a huge impact on me.  In Reverence by David Tolk is now on.  What perfect timing.  This song does something for me.  It makes me pause.  And that is the reason for this blog.  It's just a reminder of a pause.  It's an acknowledgement of the sad things in my life.  It's an acknowledgement of a traumatic thing in my life.  It's an acknowledgement that these dates made me reflect.  So, today, In Reverence to all the days that had been hard, sad, or traumatic,  I pause.  Is it a celebration? Maybe it is.  Because those days shaped me.  Whether I wanted them to or not.  Here's to taking a pause in life on those days that shaped us.  Even the tough ones. 

Thursday, November 30, 2017

Selena Gomez, Marshmello - Wolves

She's still my woman crush.  Don't judge me lol

Kelly Clarkson - Love So Soft [Official Video]

This song gets me feeling all kinds of groovy.  I feel sassy lol

Peaceful day


I'm getting ready to hang out with CC.  We both have been so busy that we haven't seen each other for awhile.  I blew off two fill ins! I was happy with that.  I was looking forward to today that I wasn't in work mode anymore until tomorrow.  Moonglow by Michael Whalen is on.  Pandora's Spa Music channel is really great to write to when I'm blogging.  Even if it feels like mindless blogging at times.  It felt great to write poetry again! Today is a peaceful day.  I did all my Christmas shopping.  I'm getting tamales for the boys tonight.  We have an out of town visitor this weekend hanging out with us.  Next weekend we'll celebrate Alexandria's birthday.  The week after, Little One is in town.  And then before you know it, Christmas is here. 2017 was a great time to start a new chapter.  And I did just that.  I learned to take in each day and handle it from there.  I really did learn how to live in the present.  I helped myself do that.  But I also had help.  Jeremy and my panel helped me get there.  I have had friends that left breadcrumbs.  They helped along the way but I don't really talk to them anymore.  Not on a bad note.  Just that their purpose to talk to me more faded.  I mended many broken friendships this past year.  That feels good.  When I think about that, that really makes for a peaceful day. 

Tuesday, November 28, 2017

Destination:Peace of Mind


Reality bent
Not impossible
Though stumped, at first
I've got my bearings, now
I see the new normal

I revel in the improbable
I embrace this maze
But I feel different than expected
I feel free

As though all I need was reality to bend
reality to find a way
That the answer was 42
While was still looking for the question.
Because indeed, that is a question to bare
What now?
Where to?
All I know is I'm okay
All I know is that moving past the improbably means a new future possible
Let the path turn left
meander what may
zigzag wherever
Destination: Peace of mind

Oh, the fun we have

She was pushing me out of the picture

Where is that damn button?! (She took over my phone)

She cracks me up.  She sees the camera and she does her cat pose.

We put up the Christmas tree!!!

We have a little one too

I love my tablet

It was a Chai kind of day

She's trying convince me she's not desperately wanting to pounce the tree

Cooking journals.  Main meals and dessert

Stranger Things. The Game.

One of these days


Trans-Siberian Orchestra is on.  One of these days I want to see it in person.  Christmas Eve is my favorite.  I have avoided it in concert because of the strobe lights but it's such an experience.  What else? Not much else.  I hadn't meant to do my Christmas shopping this yearly.  I went in  for my bff's gift card.  And there I was.  I did some grocery shopping.  I got some candy for the stockings.  I got Whiskers a little mailbox thing for her stocking stuffer.  I need to finish up Christmas cards.  I had lunch with Jeremy.  It's a wonderfully boring day. lol Have a great one!

Thursday, November 23, 2017

Surreal world

So much yes.  I can't wait!!!

Gotta catch up on my reading

Things that make you go hmmmm....

I had so much fun with this

I always love how I try to figure out the colors to use

My sketch.  So abstract.  Like stream of thought, in art form

This was one of the tracks playing when I was coloring in my Doctor Who coloring book.  How perfect is that?!

 I behaved today.  But still thought it was funny

This had me laughing.  Especially since I'm Hufflepuff

Ummmmmmmm.......

Surreal


That is the song that is on right now.  It's by Ryan Stewart.  I looked up surreal.  It is having the qualities of surrealism,bizarre.  Synonyms include unreal,unusual, wird, strange, freakish, unearthly,uncanny, and dreamlike.

I could go with that line of thought.  Surreal is a word that actually fascinates me.  I have many moments that are surreal.  Some are happy surreal.  Some are more sad surreal or even traumatic surreal.  We came home from Thanksgiving stuff and I read for a little while.  Jeremy is playing a new video game.  I needed to catch up on some reading.  I'm in the middle of New Order by Steve Berry.  Then, out of nowhere, I was craving some creativity.  I hadn't really had that crave for some time.  But there it was.  It seemed inspired by recent situations. I decided on Doctor Who since I have a new found appreciation for Doctor Who after the new Doctor was announced.  I am super excited to see Jodie Whittaker as Doctor Who.  I can't wait to dress up as Doctor Who at the next Comic Con.  Then, both Jeremy and I can be Doctor Who.  I had my music on and I lost myself in the coloring.  It was a nice feeling.  I used to color to relieve stress.  Now, I color...just because.  It's been used for relieving stress.  But most of the time, it's not.  It's just a just because feeling.  After that, I decide to sketch.  I always feel this abstract I'm not really sure where my drawing or sketching goes.  It's almost like a streaming line of thought or streaming thoughts, in art form.  Sometimes self care has nothing to do with giving yourself therapy for something one decompresses from.  Sometimes self care is giving yourself a happy, a mental hug of sorts.  This was my mental hug...to myself.  This was my emotions taking form and helping me maintain my healthy head space. 

Wednesday, November 22, 2017

12 years


12 years together....Damn.  Here's to this beautiful adventure called our relationship.  Who knew? Jess Moser and Jeremy Kearney? Craziness! Now, I can't even imagine any other way. 

Here's to Partners in crime.

 The 2017 Family ornaments

Tuesday, November 21, 2017

#MyShotAtEpilepsy


I don't get into the hashtag scene all that much.  But I made an exception this time.  I posted on my Facebook and Instagram #MyShotAtEpilepsy.  Tada.  I like that I am a personal advocate.  I appreciate that people trust to ask me questions and they are comfortable on asking questions about my condition.  It's important to have discussions and open communication on the condition.  I work.  I drive.  I am limited.  I am not disabled.  There are those whom are.  To me, I see Epilepsy like a spectrum of sorts.  There are different forms.  Some are severe.  Some are more functional.  Like mine.   Through much self care, I have learned to live with my condition.  Not only do I survive it, I thrive with it.  I have Partial Complex Seizure disorder. This is the primary disorder. I  also have Clonic-Tonic variations.  This is the secondary.  Awareness is important. 

Monday, November 20, 2017

So Mondayee


Yeah.  I made that up.  lol


It's nice to finally just sit down and relax.  So...this was my Monday.  I started the morning, thinking of the "reality bent" situation.  I mean....how could I not???! But life continued.  I went to work.  I was going to be picking up "Alexandria" after work.  Somewhere in the mix, "Ethan" waved his wand, responding, after I texted him to find information that he was going to be picking her up.  Now, normally, I would have let up.  But the parent and somewhat of a teacher decided to stand my ground.  With anyone, you must develop a relationship of trust and communication.  You consider someone when talking to them.  And any actions that may affect them.  It seemed like a feeling of butting heads but I felt compelled to stand my ground.  Maybe it's because of my new found confidence.  Maybe it's my earnestness to address things if I feel a boundary crossed,  simply address a grievance, or something that doesn't feel quite right .  Either way, I address it as immediately as possible.  The thoughts are fresh in my mind and I clarify more quickly.  People also knew where I stand faster.  There isn't a sense of lost in translation.  He relented.  Enter a feeling of frazzled.  I recognize the growing pains we will endure with this new reality of ours.  We live with an adult.  But he is still under our roof.  It's actually a matter of teaching my children to be aware of other people.  I want my children to know to consider other people.  If I'm affecting you in some way of my actions, I need to give a heads up.  That's just my take.  Last part of frazzle.  Here's a chuckle for you.  We went to a grocery store that I am not familiar with.  It was like one near our place so I didn't think twice about it.  Gracie's theme by Paul Cardall is on.  Sorry. Squirrel.  Anyhoo, It wasn't until I got to the check out that I realized I hadn't transferred my purse with my credit cards.  That's right.  So I dropped of "Alex" and went back.  A most gracious and wonderful employee, Nelson, absolutely made my day.  He put aside my non perishables.  I went back and got the perishables again so they could be fresh.  He also put the perishables back for me.  And when I came back he scanned it all for me.  All I needed to do was scan the perishables.  This guy doesn't even know what he did for me.  I, being whom I am, needed to tell a supervisor.  I found a manager and relayed my gratefulness.  That was the Mondayee Monday.  Ughs. lol  Lamentation of the Heart by Phillips Wesley is on now.  I really like it.  I just wanted to share that with you. 

Sunday, November 19, 2017

True Colours by Justin Timberlake and Anna Kendrick - Lyric Video

This brought me peace today

Katherine Logan



THE PLACE YOU ARE IN NEEDS YOU TODAY
-Katherine Logan

I don't know how.  But somehow, somewhere, I feel the Universe trying to tell me something.  I am still trying to process what I am struggling to process.  I had a certain set of information about a certain reality.  I accepted that.  And now, that reality seems..."bent".  It's not necessarily a bad thing.  But post Jess, in learning how to cope with life, is trying to cope with different experiences in my life.  Nothing is absolute.  So...the place I am right now needs me to actually be stumped.  That's the word for it.  Stumped.  Perhaps, when I gather my thoughts more in the next few days I can helps myself process better.  I will stay abstract about what this is.  But blogging has always helped me.  And so here I am, writing my thoughts.  As jumbled as they may seem right now.  Interlude by Shane and Shane is on

Thursday, November 16, 2017

Becky G - Sola lyrics in english

In my 20s, this was me.  It's interesting to see it English and hear it in Spanish.   I don't connect well with my heritage much.  But through music and dance, I do. 

Bea Miller - repercussions (lyrics)

This song is stuck in my head.  I dare you not to ughs and have the same problem. lol 

Mazzy Star - Fade Into You

This song was on when we  are on our way to Austin. 

George Santayana


THE WISEST MIND HAS SOMETHING YET TO LEARN
-George Santayana

What a profound statement.  It was something I was thinking of when our friends introduced us to a British game show.  It's called the Big Fat Quiz of Everything.  Even with the person who knows so much can still learn.  That goes for someone that has so much insight in the world.  That saying .." The only thing I know, is that I know nothing", sometimes called the Socratic paradox, derived from Plato's account of the Greek philosopher Socrates.  That's what it reminds me of.  Even someone with the most insight can find a different perspective to see the same thing,  It also reminds me of the movie Vantage Point.  My mind goes so many places sometimes.  *Squirrel*
It's a time to take a breather and remember that even if we know alot, we still have much to learn.  And that in order to be a well rounded person, we must stay open to perspectives and have something to learn.  My wisdom for you today.  Blue Horizon by Dan Gibson is on

Monday, November 13, 2017

Meaningful


So...I did something I didn't expect to.  And yet, it brings so much happiness to me, the Universe knew.  Somehow, it's exactly what I was supposed to do.  A little background story for you.  On my 31st birthday, "Ethan" gave me a purple piggy bank full of dimes.  He knows how much dimes mean to me.  I have that purple  piggy bank on my night stand to this day.  Flash forward to today.  It's his 19th birthday.  We're taking him to Pappadeaux.  I already gave him the card we got for him.  The unexpected thing was the sentimental gift.  I'm wearing the trinity knot necklace Jeremy got for me, two birthdays ago.  There is a very sentimental gift I got, some time ago.  It's one of my prized possessions.  But in some ways,  it brings sadness.  I put 19 dimes in the purple bag and gave it to "Ethan".  He loved both the bag and the sentiment.  That was meaningful.  Harry Potter even got in the mix because I said it looks a little like the Deathly Hallows.  And showed him the socks I am wearing for work.  We had a good laugh.  So, in a way, it's a happy sad.  But now, it's turned into such a happy.  Looking back, I used to wonder why the Universe denied me biological children.  It hurt.  And once in a while, I look at my friends with children and have a silent pang of pain.  And then, I look at "Ethan" and "Alexandria" . I smile and nod, knowingly.  So, as today goes through and becomes a memory, I will smile.  I am so proud of the individual "Ethan" has become.  I beam with pride....because I am a part of that reason.  Lotus field by D'rachael is on.

Thursday, November 9, 2017

SYTYCD 14 | Lex & Taylor (You Matter To Me)

They are dating in real life.  They met a year ago. They have worked together.  But then, they auditioned together and developed their friendship into a romance.  But revealed it during this performance

Parade Of Lights - Undefeatable (Audio)

Another song I got introduced to on So You Think You Can Dance.  Season 14 was amazing.  I'm happy with the winner.  The whole journey was heartfelt.  I had the feels.  I already do because it's dance.  But even more so with this season. 

Brand New (feat. Luke Wade)

I got introduced to this song, thanks to So You Think You Can Dance.  It inspires me. 

Random in my head

I love this picture of us.  We be snazzy.  

I love my Monday feels

I smile when I sit down to some hot tea.  But looking at all thing in the picture makes me smile.  It all has a story.  And it all makes me smile.  Kind of like a hug for your heart.  

I sent this to my coworker friend.  She loved it.  She's basically me, only younger.  Scary, huh?

THIS. This just made my day, yesterday.  So much so, I used it for the black and white photo challenge on instagram.