It's okay

Kinda following up from The Art of Processing yesterday...It's okay to miss things.  I thought about that today as I was talking to a friend.  Sometimes we rush to be okay, when we're really not.  All of us have a different way to process, which is what I was writing about yesterday.  So it stand to reason we miss things, places, and people so differently.  Here's an example.  I was very close to my maternal Grandma.  When she passed, you would think I would be balling.  I didn't shed one tear. I couldn't understand why I wasn't crying.  It wasn't until a year later, dealing with my divorce that I broke down.  Yes, because I was getting divorced...but more so because I lost my Grandma and finally let myself feel the pain of it.  We, as individuals are complex beings that have a different way to do things.  Even Twins have different mindsets to certain things and they are synced better than the rest of us.  So even if we have similar stories, we're not going to think the same.  I say that and most of the time I believe it.  But even I have my moments where I don't practice what I preach, so to speak.  And then I have to step back.  Jeremy helps me to do that.  Do I agree with every thing he says? No.  I tell him that now.  But I see the logic of where the line of thought is coming from.  And that is something I am learning different.  I might still disagree that I wasn't thinking that but that I understand where the line of thought came from, or the logic of it.  So, today as you go through your day.  It's okay if you don't have it all together.  It's okay if today feels more like a shitty day than a pretty day.  It's okay...not to be okay...all the time.