Wednesday, April 19, 2017
A good fit
When getting new assignments, the risk is always whether or not it's a good fit. Yesterday was a test run on whether I wanted this as my Tuesday. All I can say is No. It's not a good fit. I don't like being a go between. I don't like to have to confront and tell a client one thing because a members says it's the last word when the client tells me...welp, you're good to go. In other words, I don't like to force myself on anyone. Today, on the other hand, was incredible. My new client is amazing. We hit it right off. She was clear about the care I needed to give her. And I like that. And as I continue to be her caregiver I can figure out the ins and outs of it. For example, I learned not to assume a client has a microwave. So, for lunch I was going to wait until after work to eat. I had something at home. Now, I can do microwaveables, given that I know they have one. A good fit is important. You can't force the assignment. After all, depending on the needs, I can help with gentle help as a client has most of their independence to having to do more of the caregiver side. I am a companion. I am a caregiver. Sometimes I am just companion. I call it being a Professional friend. I liken it to being paid to hang out with a friend. My friend just happens to be the elderly kind. And then, there are other times I am helping them as a caregiver. Spouses may not be able to help. Adult children work. And that's where I come in. It's not glamorous but I help them keep their dignity. I help them not to feel so disheartened because they can't help themselves like they used to. I don't know how many conversations I've had where they speak of the anguish they feel to ask for help. They wrestle with having to ask for help. But know they're at a point to need it. I got the Unicorn frappuccino today. It looks like a diabetes attack waiting to happen. Surprisingly it is more tropical. Course, someone was telling me if I had stirred it I would've gotten a more sour taste. Problem was I was texting a friend about something and I was distracted by the conversation. It was another feeling like I'm in the middle. In the end, I told them something was off without telling them. Oh wait. Work is calling. Ah...healthy boundaries. I am slowly learning to say no. Do you know how hard that is for me sometimes? I start feeling guilty. And I told them no, twice. lol Damn, Jess. A good fit is very important. It was a conversation I had with a new friend I met today. We were both caregivers for different agencies and accompanying our clients to doctor visits and therapy appointments. A good fit is exactly what we talked about. In life, in general. Through the Dark from Helen Jane Long is on. Here is a picture of that Unicorn frappuccino.